Comments on: I’m nearly 40, unmarried and childless and yet…I’m happy

By: Olivia Hayden

Olivia Hayden — Sun, 02 Jun 2024 02:42:25 +0000

Monroe
You’ve nothing to sad.
Single is always happy if one has a dream for the life.

BTW, you made a bold fashion statement in black….resonating to your personality.

By: Jessica W.

Jessica W. — Mon, 26 Feb 2024 15:12:22 +0000

I truly appreciate this post and normalizing being almost 40, child-free and unmarried. I am in the same boat and have, at times, struggled with feeling like what I have and who I am is not enough. But I am truly happy with the life that I’ve built for myself. I’m surrounded with great family and friends, and have a career that I love.

By: Sierra Monèt

Sierra Monèt — Thu, 15 Feb 2024 04:47:17 +0000

Hi Monroe,

I love this conversation and find myself feeling this way even at 27. I actually read this when you first posted it, but wanted to really formulate my thoughts. As women I feel like we are so seamlessly and unconciosuly, socialized into this gender structure without even realizing it and how it may not align with our own true thoughts for how we want to go through life. I feel so validated by your thoughts, experiences, and vulnerability so truly thank you for this. Your words truly make me so excited to see another Black woman so comfortable, content, and with such drive doing what she loves and doing it her way even when she needs to invest in her self care. You truly are an inspiration and one of my motivators to keep trying my hand at fashion writing & content sharing in any capacity I can do with my full time work and when I go back for my masters.

I have never been afraid of aging, and honestly always say I can’t wait to see beautiful silver blending into my coils as I age! But what I am weary of is sitting with regret of not betting on myself. Allowing my doubts to cloud my passion, and being content with not being more bold, unapologetic, and carefree. And just left angry at the what could or what ifs. Getting close to my 30s has made me realize this even more, and I deciding this year it’s all about betting on me and doing what I promised myself.

Thank you for you doing you and being your own drummer in life. I want to continue believing that I can be that for myself in my truest form too!

By: Pam

Pam — Mon, 12 Feb 2024 17:15:25 +0000

I had given up on having childres and then boom, in my late 30s, it happened. Can’t imagine my life without my child. If it’s God’s will, it will happen.

By: Khadijahcares

Khadijahcares — Mon, 05 Feb 2024 22:27:39 +0000

This was truly a great read as it’s transparent and real. There is truly lots of should of’s in life trying to place women I’m boxes when there is no one size fits all narrative. It’s good that you choose you and understand your self. Being child free and single does not make you or break you. And vice versa with regards to parenthood and marriage. Whatever you want as an individual, just openly and honestly reflect on the why so you can stand comfortably in what you decide.

By: Maxine Clarke

Maxine Clarke — Mon, 05 Feb 2024 07:36:13 +0000

I am a fan of you. Just writing to let you know. I am in the same similar position. But I doesn’t make that bother me. Because I got life note. That is the greatest. Please keep me in your heart. Love to watch your videos and blog.

By: Life And Style Atlanta

Life And Style Atlanta — Sun, 04 Feb 2024 22:04:11 +0000

Happy Sunday! I was never that girl who wanted children. There were brief periods when I considered motherhood, but I quickly realized I was following the lead of some man I was dating who desired to raise a family. I’m blessed that my parents never tried to guilt me into having children. In fact, they were quite the opposite. My Mom strongly encouraged me to live my best life, however I defined it. And I remember a very candid conversation with my Dad about me not having children, and it was very validating. I told him I was afraid that if I didn’t have kids, I would grow old alone. His quick response was, “If that’s your motivation for having kids, then don’t!” He reminded me that kids don’t always take care of their parents, and he even cited real life examples LOL!

That conversation with my Dad was when I had just turned 40. I’m now 57. My only concern in not having kids was that I would reach this big age (as Tashira calls it) and have regrets. Well I’m here, and with zero regret! I’m fulfilled and I’m happier than I’ve ever been. 11 years ago I adopted a dog, a Pekingese named Bentley. Then 10 years ago I adopted a Toy Poidle named Bailey. And then 9 years ago I adopted a Yorkie named Sasha. Best decision ever! My fur babies have comforted me through layoffs, through depression, and through the loss of both my parents. Being the parent of a human child isn’t for everyone. I highly recommend becoming a pet parent.
Xoxo ~Sonya

By: Tola

Tola — Sun, 04 Feb 2024 20:40:18 +0000

As someone who’s in their mid 40s and living life, Beautifully written

By: Marina

Marina — Sun, 04 Feb 2024 18:18:34 +0000

What a great piece! I love how open and honest about your life.

By: Miss Berry

Miss Berry — Thu, 01 Feb 2024 21:09:32 +0000

Loved this! I’ll be 28 this year and I couldn’t agree with you more Monroe! I look up to you as a big sister and I’m SO glad you’re back writing – blogs are SOO back because of you lol I’ll be the first to say it! & Wherever your creative journey goes I’ll be here to support